I am not writing this blog to just vent my thoughts. After awhile that can bore people. I did choose to use this as a venue to get my feelings out so that I am not always ranting to my friends. I also wanted to be able to at least write some things down that I haven’t told a single soul. I also wanted to share the things I have learned. Not only about marriage, my marriage and myself, but about other people.
So many people I have met, or seen online, are unhappy in their marriages. Since the breakup of my marriage I have found out friends are unhappy in theirs, friends who I thought were happy. It’s people’s dirty little secret. Happy family photos just mask unhappiness people don’t want to confront or talk about. Men sign up on dating sites saying they just want casual sex. I have spoken to a few and it turns out that they aren’t just missing sex in their relationships…it took talking to a strange woman online to realize that there is much more missing. More than just the physical connection. When it came down to it these guys realized they couldn’t make the time in their already busy lives to have a casual sex partner. Also, I think they realized it wasn’t really something they wanted to do. Plan to cheat on their wives. Anyway, I will get into this more later (I.e. why it is I was talking to married men online about casual sex).
Maybe some people will purely find my soap opera life interesting. Maybe someone can learn something from the things I write….and take that and choose to change their unhappiness and choose to live their best life. Whether that’s fixing what is broken in their marriage or ending it. Either way it takes courage to make a move. However, first it takes thought and self introspection to realize there is a problem at all.